tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post1550371956480025089..comments2024-01-11T05:51:43.225-08:00Comments on Yoon's Blur: insecureMilahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14088039434355591753noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-29294008879522677022009-08-23T16:54:22.317-07:002009-08-23T16:54:22.317-07:00Give yourself ,your birthparents and adopted paren...Give yourself ,your birthparents and adopted parents time. I am sure in the end both set of parents are thankful to each other for the part they have and will play in your life. Do not be to hard on yourself for what you are feeling. It is great that you are being open to your feelings.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-81112445247682188902009-08-21T10:28:51.475-07:002009-08-21T10:28:51.475-07:00I fear that this process is simply too painful and...I fear that this process is simply too painful and too hurtful for all four parents, and that consequently they will begin to pull away from me—that they will decide this is too much, and subsequently, snatch their hearts from me and flee.<br /><br />I fear that I will lose all four parents—and be left with no one.<br /><br />_---Melissa - I completely understand. It is a VERY delicate situation... and many complicated emotions involved with it! But our hearts have held these special places for our birth parents - somewhere tucked away, we have always have a special place with special love for them... and I am so happy that you are able to explore it! <br /><br />It's ok to feel so overwhelmed and confused - and the fear of losing four of our parents is a very frightening thought and fear. AND LEGITIMATE!! <br /><br />I wondered if my omma would think "this is too much... i know you are alive and well, and now i can have peace." I always used to worry that "WHAT IF SHE LEAVES ME AGAIN!? WHAT WILL I DO?"<br /><br />It is a very painful experience, but you can do it!!! Sending hugs and hugs!sherinalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08382751889192685628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-68493621520232650182009-08-21T06:44:42.902-07:002009-08-21T06:44:42.902-07:00You are so brave. As always I'm in awe of your...You are so brave. As always I'm in awe of your resilience and courage and willingness to keep your head high. You are such an inspiration to me, you have no idea!<br /><br />I must say I feel rather at a loss for more words. I think that for the first time I feel a bit like an outsider, not having gone "there". So I'm not gonna pretend to know anything about it.Mia_h_nnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-86273912554365018772009-08-20T19:25:24.183-07:002009-08-20T19:25:24.183-07:00Thank you, "Anonymous" and Kyungmee for ...Thank you, "Anonymous" and Kyungmee for your kind understanding and encouragement...I know you're right, that it will just take time...<br /><br />Thank you so much for what you shared so openly. You both clearly understand loss and grief and the complex emotions that define the adoption experience...<br /><br />I know that even with all the emotional complexities, there is always hope...Milahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14088039434355591753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-50097800592596976542009-08-20T18:03:35.258-07:002009-08-20T18:03:35.258-07:00It has never been easy for my family to openly tal...It has never been easy for my family to openly talk about Korea and my family there. In their own way, they reached out to me when they felt they needed to. My parents in Korea had passed away while I was young and still living there but I did reunite with my siblings in 2004. Part of me wished that 'we' all could meet and get along as a big family but my reality did not work out that way. I understand insecurity and how it can play out for everyone involved. Since I have found my family in Korea..I came back to losing my Father and Sister here in the States less than two years later. Now it is my Mother and me here. And since the loss I had here..I had no contact from Korea. I went to find my family I had lost to come back to lose the family I grew up with. And with all this loss..my mother and I have gotton closer and able to talk more of the past and of my family still in Korea. We have a long road ahead of us but maybe we can get through it together. And maybe, we can meet up with my surviving siblings in korea down the road! You never know..insecurities and all..what life has in store down the road. Good luck to you, Melissa.kyungmeehttp://homeiswithin.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-21520097383125143812009-08-20T14:19:49.034-07:002009-08-20T14:19:49.034-07:00I, too, am adopted and have met my birthparents. ...I, too, am adopted and have met my birthparents. It's taken years for my adopted parents to come to know my birthparents. I, too, didn't know what to feel at first. It's ok not to feel love and to be confused. They are strangers, but yet somehow we are drawn to the unknown. Not knowing our whole lives who we looked like and the questions that come with that. It's ok to feel how you do. It's a process. You will go through many different feelings. Even today, for me, 7 years later..I am still processing it. Everything happens for a reason so trust in the One who helped it all happen. God Bless, Melissa. Hang in there :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com