tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post655116083091714574..comments2024-01-11T05:51:43.225-08:00Comments on Yoon's Blur: Why adoption hurts (Part I)Milahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14088039434355591753noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-22537329077836900382018-05-22T06:53:55.517-07:002018-05-22T06:53:55.517-07:00The website is looking bit flashy and it catches t...The website is looking bit flashy and it catches the visitors eyes. Design is pretty simple and a good user friendly interface. <a href="http://adoption-alliance.com/about-our-agency-texas-tx/ft-worth/" rel="nofollow">learn more</a><br /><br />alizybethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17959360003397216742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-48176178052856120532013-04-14T17:56:40.059-07:002013-04-14T17:56:40.059-07:00Anonymouse what about those who have taken respons...Anonymouse what about those who have taken responsibility but have a broken condom,a vasectomy that didn't work or a raped? No I don't buy it either, we know in the adoptee community of many adoptees who were not wanted at birth and not wanted now as adults.All adoption begins with loss and trauma, those effects last for life. Too many adopters get through home studies who should not because they are not up to the specialised job of adoption parenting.They don't accept or understand the initial loss or trauma, they are racist, colour-blind or abusive. Most are victims of the adoption industry, pay huge sums of money for adoptees and may have failed to research adoption thoroughly and the country they adopt from where adoption practises may be corrupt.Adopters have a huge responsibility not to adopt a child who is not really an orphan, to break up a family that could be kept together and to ensure that a child really does need a family in his/her own country not elsewhere. Adoption involves loss of identity, falsification of documents and absence of birth information, sometimes failure to complete nationality procedures.Adopters are directly resp0onsible for those things, adoptees have no choice and mothers have their rights removed or sometimes give them up. I don't understand what you mean by 'the child's failures in life'? Can you please clarify?Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-69695505078155939132013-04-12T15:25:54.813-07:002013-04-12T15:25:54.813-07:00Adoption begins when someone makes the decision to...Adoption begins when someone makes the decision to have sex without taking responsibility. I don't buy that all adopted children are "stolen" from their birth mothers. I know of many birth mothers who willingly gave their child away. So yes, I can understand why that hurts. The adoptive parents are not to blame. Unless the adoptive parents were abusive or neglectful, they are not the villains here. Good adoptive parents are not to blame for the child's failures in life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-56641704665805903362010-10-06T10:57:51.206-07:002010-10-06T10:57:51.206-07:00Anon, you wrote, "i have experiance and it hu...Anon, you wrote, "i have experiance and it hurts sooo bad you loose everything and no one belives you they think you are the bad child and it feels like no one cares...!"<br /><br />I hope you are able to get connected with other adoptees, because you are not a "bad child" and you are definitely not alone. There are plenty of other adoptees out there like me who can completely relate to you, who believe you and feel the hurt and loss that you do...<br /><br />We care. We care very much.Milahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14088039434355591753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-61533566454629891242010-10-06T10:30:23.469-07:002010-10-06T10:30:23.469-07:00i have experiance and it hurts sooo bad you loose ...i have experiance and it hurts sooo bad you loose everything and no one belives you they think you are the bad child and it feels like no one cares...!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-59418131758161962432010-03-27T08:19:07.866-07:002010-03-27T08:19:07.866-07:00Mia, it's true. You are stronger than you thin...Mia, it's true. You are stronger than you think. I only wish that the general public understood the truth about adoption...Milahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14088039434355591753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-59139760779069175422010-03-26T16:10:43.456-07:002010-03-26T16:10:43.456-07:00"Although adoptees--similar to a widow who ha..."Although adoptees--similar to a widow who has happily remarried--may have gained a family, you must keep in mind that the only reason they have so-called gained a family is that they first LOST everything." It's a small wonder I can get out of bed in the morning. Perhaps I'm stronger than I think....Mia_h_nnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-23322467577002645712010-03-25T19:08:18.927-07:002010-03-25T19:08:18.927-07:00[It's not that your love is not good enough. I...[It's not that your love is not good enough. It's simply that such pain and loss cannot be instantaneously transformed by love.]<br /><br />Saying adoption is not "good enough" is like saying an adoptive parent's love isn't good enough.<br /><br />And the whole supposed basis on which adoptive parents, well, adopt - is that because they DO have enough love, they will adopt a child and raise & love that child, and hopefully the child will not experience pain like you and I have, and so on...Mei Linghttp://sisterheping.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-90234602920327170422010-03-25T14:47:24.039-07:002010-03-25T14:47:24.039-07:00Great post. I look forward to Part 2.Great post. I look forward to Part 2.Triona Guidryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969598333210972017noreply@blogger.com