tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post6865065170043287698..comments2024-01-11T05:51:43.225-08:00Comments on Yoon's Blur: dominoesMilahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14088039434355591753noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-74657138887210467472009-09-08T12:13:19.317-07:002009-09-08T12:13:19.317-07:00[Do you think they would ever learn English?]
Rac...[Do you think they would ever learn English?]<br /><br />Rachel, most likely, the answer to your question would be No.<br /><br />It's a possibility, but not a strong one. Most of the time the expectation is on the adoptee to learn the biological parents' language.Milahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14088039434355591753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-31483644124028687822009-09-08T08:58:19.679-07:002009-09-08T08:58:19.679-07:00Do you think they would ever learn English?Do you think they would ever learn English?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05660768698682049836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-50756375409748215472009-08-31T02:59:40.765-07:002009-08-31T02:59:40.765-07:00Kyungmee - your comment really made me think. I kn...Kyungmee - your comment really made me think. I know it's probably obvious to many, but for some reason it hadn't even occured to me before now.<br /><br />I may find family and ask them all the questions but I might not get a response...<br /><br />So thank you for commenting.Mia_h_nnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-23975874153022323452009-08-28T13:00:45.237-07:002009-08-28T13:00:45.237-07:00Harmony, I wanted to thank you for recommending th...Harmony, I wanted to thank you for recommending those links to Korean movies & drama...we watched the movie "A Man Who was Superman" and an episode of "Air City"--even though I probably only picked up on a handful of words, I can see that in the long run the more exposure I get the better my chances...so, thanks!Milahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14088039434355591753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-20519465666771355422009-08-28T10:00:31.432-07:002009-08-28T10:00:31.432-07:00Korean is the hardest language in the world to lea...Korean is the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hardest_language" rel="nofollow">hardest language in the world to learn</a> - as a <i>first</i> language. And it's among the hardest for English speakers to learn.<br /><br /><i>although you yourself are a foreigner, you are expected by the natives to be a native</i><br /><br />I know from experience that this is very true. It's perfectly ok for me to speak halting Korean with an accent and to miss an honorific here or there... but if my husband does? <i>Shameful!</i> Not because he grew up in a family where they spoke Korean, but because he looks Korean.<br /><br />There are some really great things about Korean culture, but this isn't one of them.Harmonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15105846442509828835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-35665540160279960082009-08-27T08:30:31.555-07:002009-08-27T08:30:31.555-07:00Hi, I saw your youtube video. I hoped the visit we...Hi, I saw your youtube video. I hoped the visit went well. I'm sure it's a unforgettable moment in your life. good luck with everything. I am glad you are sharing your story!Elliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05041288497340096263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-30972763687979132152009-08-27T08:27:02.967-07:002009-08-27T08:27:02.967-07:00having met my family now in korea and now in the n...having met my family now in korea and now in the netherlands...I can tell you even though it;s only been a couple days..I feel closer to my brother in the netherlands..simply because we can talk to each other in the same language! I still feel very disconnected with my family in korea...and they are unwilling to talk about many things so it makes it even more difficult for me. There are still questions and it has not been a all happy reunion..but I still hold on to that hope..so don't give up but be realistic like you are! All relationships are different like all past. I really want to learn korean..but I wonder even if I did...would our relationship really change much! I think it is how they are and who they are too. I could be wrong. Again, that is for me...and for you like many have different beginnings will have different endings too:) <br />Also, I want to note that I had ask them different ways we could communicate but they tell me it is not easy for them...but yet they have cell phones and family with computers and emails that I write to but they never return it..it can be fustrating...but I keep trying. Maybe, in some way, it way encourage them to do the same!kyungmeehttp://homeiswithin.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-91127735707259058932009-08-26T22:43:15.611-07:002009-08-26T22:43:15.611-07:00"Not to mention all the heavy emotional bagga..."Not to mention all the heavy emotional baggage and implications that this language holds for me. "<br /><br />This is one of the main reasons why I believe that I have such difficulty learning korean. I learned spanish no problem, and can still construct sentences, and even have a basic (basic) conversation with someone!<br /><br />Korean - I can pick out one or two words and then try to guess what they are saying... so I agree with you girlie - <br /><br />the emotional baggage can definitely hinder our progress of learning Korean!<br /><br />I love your friend's quotes - they are very poignant!sherinalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08382751889192685628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-36371697453741955362009-08-26T05:53:25.637-07:002009-08-26T05:53:25.637-07:00Mei-Ling...I can only imagine the tempest of emoti...Mei-Ling...I can only imagine the tempest of emotion & thought you're experiencing right now...thinking of you and here for you...Milahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14088039434355591753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-89322406851663957952009-08-26T02:41:52.855-07:002009-08-26T02:41:52.855-07:00One other thing I forgot to mention is something t...One other thing I forgot to mention is something that was written by a Vietnamese blogger - it's been a long time since I've read the entry, not sure if it was Kev Minh or sume:<br /><br />"It's not that I want to remember. It's that I can't forget."Mei-Linghttp://littlewing04.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-46504748195941580342009-08-26T01:17:07.328-07:002009-08-26T01:17:07.328-07:00Whoa, this is deep.
As I write this, I have just ...Whoa, this is deep.<br /><br />As I write this, I have just under 2 hours until I turn off the computer, head to Heping for dinner with Baba and Mama for the last time, and then head back to Xingnan (their 2nd home) to pack up and head off.<br /><br />[although you yourself are a foreigner, you are expected by the natives to be a native]<br /><br />This happened to me many times.<br /><br />Sales clerk: blah blah blah in Mandarin<br />Me: I don't understand.<br />Sales clerk: How do you not understand?!<br />Me: I came abroad.<br />Sales clerk: blah blah<br />Me: I'm Canadian. I don't know what you're saying to me.<br />Sales clerk: Oh!<br /><br />[I must learn to contend that what I receive will only ever really be equal to what I am able to give.]<br /><br />Yeah, I realized that a while ago. It just flashed in my mind as I finally understood why I wasn't able to have a "normal" relationship with them and why it seemed nothing was progressing.<br /><br />[But in a situation like this, you can’t get to the truth with facial expressions and hand gestures.]<br /><br />Absolutely.<br /><br />Also, regarding the language barrier thing and having people say "Well then go take classes."<br /><br />Newsflash here, people: Classroom language is NOTHING like real-world language.Mei-Linghttp://littlewing04.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com