tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post7529339187622865607..comments2024-01-11T05:51:43.225-08:00Comments on Yoon's Blur: It's easy to be a hereticMilahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14088039434355591753noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-71009751878094637562011-03-06T13:44:55.022-08:002011-03-06T13:44:55.022-08:00@Von, If nothing else, dispelling of adoption myth...@Von, If nothing else, dispelling of adoption myths is the little bit of "unity" us adoptee's really have.<br /><br />I don't think it's protest against truth, it's more of a perpetuated ignorance that keeps the business spinning.<br /><br />Besides everyone knows Asians are supposed to docile and loyal. Why would they every speak out right? =Pscotchedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02415896376287277028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-52452761424513739042011-03-04T21:31:57.247-08:002011-03-04T21:31:57.247-08:00Another who loves "Gospel of Gratitude in Ado...Another who loves "Gospel of Gratitude in Adoption" <br />I have no problem with the puppies statement, it has a truth for me, especially as I was a six week puppy myself and I know how very valuable those six weeks were for my identity and ultimate survival.<br />I have wondered lately how subscribing to the myths of adoption affects the way in which adopters carry out what should be a skilled task but one which often seems to be carried out by amateurs.<br />Will the level of protest against adoptee truth, which of course no-one can sensibly argue about, since it is our truth, have an effect on young adoptees and their grieving, coming to terms with loss and coping with the trauma of adoption?Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-40694319604151446552011-03-02T16:45:55.772-08:002011-03-02T16:45:55.772-08:00Thanks so much for this! Of course I don't min...Thanks so much for this! Of course I don't mind you linking to me :)<br />I was thinking yesterday how humorous it was that adoptees seem to agree with my blog more so (lately) than other first moms. Honestly, I prefer it that way. Everyone always says adoption is about the adoptee, but it seems as though that thinking stops once the adoptee is no longer a child.<br />I know I'm repeating everyone else, but I love the "Gospel of Gratitude of Adoption" lol. I am so going to use that!Not Just A Birth Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10520101148178388809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-14753096086015941522011-03-02T14:25:46.658-08:002011-03-02T14:25:46.658-08:00It is so frustrating that we who live with and rec...It is so frustrating that we who live with and recognize the losses from adoption are the ones who are told our opinions are wrong! <br /><br />This is a great post, and a much nicer "rant" than I had going in my mind regarding Ashleigh's blog replies.Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-39946346964804738462011-03-02T14:07:39.519-08:002011-03-02T14:07:39.519-08:00You go girl!
I have been thinking about the topic...You go girl!<br /><br />I have been thinking about the topic of critical thinking and analysis of adoption, and any topic, quite a lot as a lot of the books I've been reading lately have all included one of my favorite psychological topics: the psycho-social stages of development.<br /><br />Basic concepts may be acceptable for children, whose thinking is magical or literal. But for adults, it is more than appropriate to incorporate knowledge, wisdom, and experience into our increasing ability to use logic in our thoughts--which includes weighing paradoxes and thinking out things that do not fit together. Whatever conclusion someone comes to, whether positive or negative, happy or sad, simple or complex, or in agreement or disagreement with a concept they formerly accepted, is up to them. It's up to them, not anyone else, to decide it for themselves!<br /><br />Why deny this to an adopted person, first mom, or any person? It really bothers me when I am scolded for pointing out an inconsistency in adoption because it's almost as if nothing I say is appreciated unless it's bright and happy and unquestioning of adoption. I am denied my skill as a young adult in my current stage of development of working out concepts on my own. It's unfortunate that adoptees, or anyone, is treated this way, especially as mature adults.<br /><br />(I know you know all this already hehehe).<br /><br />I don't always agree with other constellation members. But I do absolutely appreciate the ones who will at least listen!<br /><br />I agree with Ms. Marginalia "Gospel of Gratitude in Adoption" is so spot-on.The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1068702647356713810.post-62858751510182619062011-03-02T11:23:02.206-08:002011-03-02T11:23:02.206-08:00The censoring that goes on is horrible. If there i...The censoring that goes on is horrible. If there is good information to be shared (such as considering that argument that a mother and baby not be separated immediately after birth), why not share it and discuss it? We can all have done things that we reconsider afterwards. There is no shame in self-reflection, unless done by adoptees or first moms, apparently. <br /><br />Internecine fighting like this is so frustrating. <br /><br />I love your concept of the "Gospel of Gratitude of Adoption." It is spot on. We are heretics for thinking critically about our OWN lives. Wow.ms. marginaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03854609171313401651noreply@blogger.com