I didn't search because I was looking for a new family.
My decision to search is not a reflection of you as a parent. I didn't decide to search for my biological family because you somehow failed me as a parent.
I did not decide to search because you as a parent were not enough.
In fact, although my decision to search certainly affects you, it actually has very little to do with you.
My decision to search is primarily due to the innate, inherent desire of every human being to want to know from whom and where we began.
My decision to search has more to do with the natural and normal longing to know one's origins, one's history, to answer such basic questions as, "Who am I?" or "Why am I the way I am?"
It's not that your love as a parent was not enough, it was simply that your love can not answer the questions that linger and hover over me. Your love cannot tell me why my original parents relinquished me. Your love cannot tell me what happened. Your love cannot give me the answers that have eluded me all of my life.
Only searching can help me to face these questions. And although I may not find the answers that I seek, I hope to find more of who I am along the way.
The best thing you can do is to understand that my desire to search is not about you as a parent. The best thing you can do is to be there for me, to let me know that you're not going anywhere, that you're secure enough in our relationship to let me take this journey.
The best thing you can do is to let go, while continuing to love me, knowing that although your love cannot answer all the questions I have, it can be a source of strength.
The best thing you can do is to not pull away or feel threatened by my desire to know more.
I am not leaving you in search of a new family. I am holding onto you as I search for the ones who--not unlike you--made me the person I am today.