Tuesday, May 24, 2011

“Would You Have Expected Your Parents To Fork Over $10,000?”

Blogger Mei-Ling wrote this post, “Would You Have Expected Your Parents To Fork Over $10,000?” in response to a discussion that ensued regarding my recent post, "The Ugly Truths".

She answers this question with perfect insight and precisely puts to words what I have been trying to figure out for years but never could:

"Yes, I am selfish enough that I wish my adoptive parents would have wanted to hand over the money so that I could have stayed with my family. Call me insane, crazy, insensitive, incredulous. But while I intellectually understand one side of the issue (forking over $10,000 being unreasonable), I take the other side on this issue to heart, as it is so very personal."

Please read Mei-Ling's whole post for the entire context (and "The Ugly Truths," if you have not already).

4 comments:

Lori said...

I believe that if someone truly wants to help a child - they should indeed be ready to fork over the dough so that the child can stay with the people they are born to.....

Andrea said...

No I wouldn't. I sponsor a child but I adopted my last 2 children. I apreciate your blog especially because you bring a prospective and honesty that I can't

Nicole H said...

Adoption isn't only about financial stability. I think that there are many brave and selfless women who make the decision to give life instead of having an abortion and the people who adopt aren't (in my experiences) looking to buy a child, many times the money is used to improve the lives of children and people in the country from where one adopts.

Mei Ling said...

"I think that there are many brave and selfless women who make the decision to give life instead of having an abortion"

Epic stereotype there about abortion. If a child is alive, then that point is moot: it means the woman who seriously contemplated abortion would have already done so rather than bothering to give birth in the first place.

Pointing out that someone raised a child on the foundation of adoption that they "could have" been aborted is the wrong point to make. Even if she went straight from abortion thoughts to adoption. It's no different than if a biological mother considered abortion, then decided to raise her child.

Adoption has nothing to do with abortion because the child is alive. You cannot abort a living child.

And you can only do a legal abortion up to a certain point while the embryo/fetus is growing.